The one thing I do know is when I am upset with someone - it is all about me. I need to then focus hard on loving instead of judging. In that same sin/negativity = focus on the good instead, and build on that. From that love - can the negativity be conquered and our lives can turn mud into gold. But that is so hard to do.
Generational stuff or our own past - dictates our glasses we see however we can all change. If we judge and walk a way without loving then we loose out on the lesson. I have a saying when I am in a negative situation - this is a learning thing.... and I think about why this negative is upsetting to me personally. Besides getting physically damaged ofcourse, if it is emotional - there must be a reason why I am letting other's behavior/attitude get the best out of me. It is a learing experience for me. Dad calls it character building.
WE can all what we think is right and boom the rug is pulled and you are sinking, without warning or self inflicting the challenge or negativity. No one's fault, just happens. Which can be sometimes the worse feeling. "Why did they do that, or she said this, or I feel like this?"
People, accidents, economy drugs can destroy our most precious loves - and we may never get over the change forced on us. We must stay strong not to fall victim to negativity. We must embrace , reflect , and hopefully quickly - move on with faith, hope and love. We have not the power to change people or events. But with love, our hearts are eventually reignited.
Self pity and victim / entitlement mentality is easy and short term satisfying due to the boost of energy it creates. These attitudes are devastating and will eat up the beauty in your life and those around you, And it is hard to climb out of that once we give in. When we choose that road we are more then likely to end up defending our views not willing to let go. Scared to death to loose the energy that supported us for so long, that it gets increasinly hard to replace. Like when we over eat- or do drugs, at first it is a great substitute for something, the longer we rely on it, the more it destroys us. And it is so hard to replace for a more healthier lifestyle growing to be a part of us that we must fight to change.
Taking ownership of our reactions and attitudes can be somewhat difficult when programmed your whole life to do it one way not ever truly knowing the part that you were meant to play - only being a copy of someone else's. Returning negativity for negativity is normal - but will create more blackness in our lives. We get lost at times we sometimes push and pull , make changes like the wind because of what "they" say ... creating a more difficult life because we want immediate gratification and results but without being honest, examining our role, view or part we were put here to play, our own story or drama. But because we learn not to say anything or to speak our heartfelt thoughts, our feelings and honest opinions just stay there, hidden, scared of rejection or more pain we loose site of our own story we were meant for. We retreat, never resolving our thoughts negative or positive which then seeds new thoughts often times confusing or negative.
So in order to create a life of love - we must speak and know our truths. Your truth is your truth - and through love and only speaking out of love, this truth will set you free. The Bible says - "To thine own self be true. The truth will set you free." Nothing in there about being right. Tons in there about faith , hope and love. So when you look at someone - choose love above all else. I like to say or think what my Aunt says when someone says something I think is wacked, "if I were in your shoes, i would say or do the same thing." When you look at yourself - and know you come from your shoes, speak out, love yourself regardless of your shoes you come from and choose love. Love yourself and your own indiviual self. Don't hide - by running and pushing others away - love them instead. Love yourself so much you fear no one or nothing!!
And soon life will be good. The world will be your oyster!
Love, T
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