dealing with mean people

Jake wanted me to post what I wrote to a friend today.    

When we find ourselves in a situation and people are just plain mean and unjustified rude or awful,  - say a huge prayer, take a deep breath,  do not react to nonsense or stuff beyond your control.   No matter what - hold your composed ground and tell them you will think about what they said, you are sorry they feel this way and get back to them at a better time.   Just be patient. - Know that God has this.

Egos and feelings seem to be super flared up (especially when x's deal with stuff together - stuff we can't fix) - so do not engage, take the tiny itsy bitsy high road - and bridge over to a better time when you can discuss and get back to a situation, even if they were whacked, mean and unjustified poor behavior.

Mean people can only be mean if we react in a negative way.  They want it that way - cause it justifies their being mean or hateful in the first place.    If they can;t reach you, or make your upset - they will quit.   The only person you have to answer to is God, and He knows and in the end - living in His truth will set you free.   We can't buy into mean people's truth for they do not know.    However we should pity them.

Pity mean people for they make really bad decisions in order to make their negative plight forefront no matter what and in the end - they are caged and dig holes they drown in their plight not even aware of positive change that takes place.  But this is not in our control.   

We should find solace and peace with God and maybe even our friends and family.   Never perfect - for it is a fight to not buy into stupid , negative, and mean people's stuff.   At a better time - if it matters, take time to pray, present your side and pray that it is well received.    And know,  

God has it.